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Depression: Medicate or not?

We know that some depression can come from different medications, life issues, and the death of loved ones; the list goes on. A very significant initiative would be to complete a history on the individual, look at the medication list, inquire about recent life events, and diagnosis of depression. Let’s search for the source of the depression before diagnosis and medication become a part of the treatment plan. Have we not considered that some issues which underlined depression can be worked through? Let’s attempt to complete a history and put in place some interventions that call for other things besides medicating the individual. Believe me, if the depression is caused by medication, do you think it is a good idea to medicate the medication? Even, with depression from the death of a loved one, medicating the individual cause more problems, than allowing the individual to work through the grief process with some grief group help, putting them on an antidepressant is not the answer; especially when the individual has not properly grieved the lost loved one.  What if an individual’s electricity was disconnected for non-payment and that person thinks that there are no resources and becomes depressed, should the individual be medicated until he/she can get the light bill paid? Think about it, we live in a society where there is a pill for everything and if we are not teaching people to cope and work through these issues, we will continue to have fatalities of drug overdoses. 

Many times, still talking about depression, people just want to vent and to have someone to vent to, is there a pill for that? I have a male I was working with, and he stated that he cannot go into the pharmacy because to walk the aisles where the pills are housed is a trigger for him. He stated that he finds a need to purchase or steal some pills, but once does it he goes through remorse and wishes that he would have been stronger. We are a pill society and every day; if we can go without a pill, is a good day. Take care and stay safe!

Did you know that most of our population suffers from depression? In fact, if we did not have down moments or days, how will we recognize our good times? Let’s try to get to a place where there id not a pill to get and a pill to lie down. It’s okay if I have a bad day because my joy will come in the morning. What I would like to see more of is when people are experiencing those down times that they find new ways to get themselves out of the dump. I do believe most times when we are feeling depressed it is mostly due to relationship issues. Try something for me, the next time you are feeling depressed try having yourself a good cry, most times you can’t cry because depression usually does not project emotional expression. It must be in total demand that is why you need to get out of the house and get some vitamin D (Sunshine) or watch some comedian. I love Martin Lawrence and Steve Harvey or even Madea.

Relationships. Who wants one!

Relationships, who want one? Most times when the heart is young and inexperienced is when love comes to educate about the affairs of the heart. Relationships pose little interest to me. One, because after experiencing relationships I can see the flaws in the misconception. Females are more relationship-driven now than males. Males are driven, but they realize now that they don’t have to work that hard in relationships because the female is the fixer. Desperate women do desperate things! Females tend to settle for a lot less 

I was talking with my daughter about her relationship with her boyfriend and she was saying that she wanted to take him out on a date (a picnic). I truly didn’t have a problem with it until it would cost me to sport him, then it was a problem for me. I do believe that if a guy wants to take me out, he should get the bill and if I ask him out (which I want you to know that will NEVER happen), but if it did, I would be willing to split the bill. But now, females will pay the bill. My bible says when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing, not when a woman finds a man. Be careful of what you are getting into because it doesn’t say Sunkist, you don’t know what you are getting.  We often wonder why relationships end so quickly, well I believe because the female is seeking out the relationship instead of allowing the man to take the lead. I wonder what message are we sending our daughters? How can we be better equipped to enter a relationship when we are so broken? Broken from childhood wounds, broken relationships with our parents, broken intimate relationships, and disappointed by my best friend, no wonder we question our commitment.

Take care of yourself, love self and be good to yourself, if you want to know how to be in a relationship and how to nurture each other because until you learn to self you will never understand how to love someone. There’s a population among us who buy and sell their love. Every heard of Catfish, cheaters; etc. Let’s not even get started about those boys in Nigeria. They sell American women’s body parts. They sell this illusion that the American woman is in a full relationship only to start begging for money. Here are the things, most American women send the money. Oh, we have them here in America also, every watch Dr. Phil when you see these older people being taken for every dime they have, pitiful! Just food for thought – don’t be so desperate to love until you miss all of the warning signs. Take care until we talk again.

The Mission of Growing Together

Our mission is to help families build resiliency, create independence, stability and achieve reintegration into the community by designing and delivering behavioral modification that serves and meets the needs of the community. Here at Growing Together Family & Children, take family issues very seriously and we offer innovative ways to find solutions to life’s issues. We generate cohesion and reunification within the family setting through therapeutic interventions and empathic constructs.  Some of the issues addressed during our group classes are Anger Management, Mental/Emotional Issues, Decision Making, Marital Conflict, Relationship Stressor, etc.